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Nyanners
Posted on 02-25-14 03:35 PM (rev. 3 of 05-06-16 12:10 AM by Nyanners) Link | ID: 50223

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Posted on 02-25-14 04:00 PM (rev. 2 of 05-06-16 01:06 AM by StapleButter) Link | ID: 50224
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I have to admit, were I in this situation I would continue to stay at home without question... a few summers ago I was under a lot of family pressure to get a job but didn't have one, and had a plan to get out of my family's house in the fall, and stayed through that- it does, however, seem like your family is much more aggressive against you than mine was, so it's not directly comparable.

I know situations like this are quite stressful, so it is important to find some way you can back up and look at the wider picture in a calm setting... if separating from your family and going to the bed and breakfast is the only way you can do that if might be worthwhile, but I'd be concerned about treating that as a permanent option...


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I have to admit, were I in this situation I would continue to stay at home without question... a few summers ago I was under a lot of family pressure to get a job but didn't have one, and had a plan to get out of my family's house in the fall, and stayed through that- it does, however, seem like your family is much more aggressive against you than mine was, so it's not directly comparable.

I know situations like this are quite stressful, so it is important to find some way you can back up and look at the wider picture in a calm setting... if separating from your family and going to the bed and breakfast is the only way you can do that if might be worthwhile, but I'd be concerned about treating that as a permanent option...


The reason my family are so angry towards me is because this time last year I was in the same position, except I got a job then, at one of the two full time employers I mentioned, only I was foolish and thought that things wouldn't get bad again, that was until I lost the job and realised I spent all the money I earned on things like computer stuff and steam games and had no intention to save for emergencies or any kind of backup, plus I thought back then I could just get out of being asked to leave like all those times before, but it's all different this year, and I think for the sake of my own morality I need to get out and get somewhere to stay by myself otherwise I'm going to go a bit mad, and betting all my hopes on this caravan thing is also a big mistake.

And anyway, all the B&Bs are in town, town is where jobs are and flats are, if I were in a B&B and declaring I'd be homeless otherwise maybe the council would be inclined to offer me room somewhere in that town, in which case things would be alright for a time.

But again, that's a big lot of 'if's and 'then's.


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I think that if you are in an excessively stressful environment that effects everything. While I would only consider 'leaving without a safety net' an extreme case, I can relate.

I would say if you decide to leave, please before you do anything make sure you are going to be safe. At least the UK seems to have a good social safety net. If you can stick it out with your parents, I think you should until you have either solid place to stay, or you reach the breaking point. It's too bad your parents don't get by putting excessive pressure on someone it doesn't lead to more results.

To sum: Be safe, if you go, make sure you have a sure place (if possible), and yet if it gets too much at home than don't get trapped either.

Hope this is all coherent at 10pm...





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