Posts by KP - Kafuka Boards

The other FIVE are fine and actually badass. I've got a problem with one of them though and so does everyone else, including the landlord, hereafter referred to as Dan. He posted something on the fridge recently that doesn't make a lot of sense, and I used the board's quote system to help me parse it all out for readability. This is the result.

Please don't freak out. I have sold my small picnic table and i needed the room in my truck to deliver it today. The delivery is by my school so i decided to save on the gas and deliver it on the way to school this morning. The couch which was in the back of my truck will only be out of my truck for one day. less than 12 hours really, and i will be putting the couch back in my truck where it belongs tonight at 9pm.
It seems to me that this is your way of dealing with a combination of things, such as temperature and having a peaceful place to study or do whatever. I'm cool with that. It's a little ghetto, but nothing that really gets to the point of bothering me. Others might, I dunno. Having your couch wherever it was for the time you mentioned isn't a big deal since 1) you notified us and 2) it wasn't there for very long.
It seems like every little thing i do pisses every one off
First of all, let me explain something to you that you obviously didn't understand or care to pay attention to when we talked last. You think you have rights and freedoms that you don't have. When you have six other guys whose view of what they're entitled to (or bubble) is of a [small, uniform] size and then another guy who comes into the picture believes he's entitled to have/do whatever he wants, that one guy is going to feel like the odd man out for being "picked on" by the other roommates. He's going to feel like his "freedoms" were being taken away, when in fact they weren't there in the first place. That's one of many reasons why the stunts you pull are largely unpopular with the rest of the household.
and then i only hear it from Dan for the first time.
I'll explain this soon.
I don't think it is fair for dan to have to deal with our little issues.
I agree, but they aren't "our" "little" issues. They're your big issues.
To be honest I Don't know if just one or all of the room mates hate me right now but i would rather get along with everyone.
This is commendable. But, you keep saying that you don't know what you can do to make things peaceful for all parties. Either you're just feigning ignorance to justify continuing to do it, or you actually just don't know. But, logic dictates you're smarter than you're letting on and you just decide to have things your way continually, and when someone else disagrees with you then it turns into armageddon.
The key to any successful relationship is proper communication.
This implies I want a relationship in the first place. I don't. You are my roommate. End of story. If a friendship starts because of a cordial, interpersonal interaction, that's cool, but I didn't move in here to make friends, I moved here to have a roof over my head.
Please i beg of you, If you have a problem with me and anything i do at all, MAN UP and communicate via text phone call letter or in person. Please don't let things build up until you cant stand it or me any more. I promise i am not as unapproachable as some have accused me.
See that? The end, there? Yeah, there's a big problem with that. Let me explain it to you.

There are some qualities you can't just judge of yourself. This is one of them. One cannot just decide that he's approachable. You, in very many cases, have proven to be unapproachable, and it's the judgments of others that ultimately decide this aspect of you. In other words, your approachability isn't necessarily decided by yourself. That being said, let's back up a little bit there... you want us to "man up" and face your obvious unapproachability? No, I don't think so, and this is why (as I said I would explain) instead of bringing these things up with you, they get brought up to Dan instead. And, like it or not, that's the way they're going to get brought up in the future.
Some of you have just seen me having a bad day. We all have those from time to time.
When I called you a dick, that was uncalled for. Having a bad day has nothing to do with it and using it as a justification for your actions is unacceptable. You'll notice I did not claim I was having a bad day.
If it does not bother you that much, just leave it alone and continue to not let it bother you. If it does bother you that much i am sure we can work out some type of "law" or happy compromise. I would much rather compromise and keep the freedom.
That's convenient... for you. As I said, you're the one who thinks they're entitled to more than what has been allotted, so "compromising" here would put us at a disadvantage, while you get to keep the "freedom" you think you have.
If we communicate nicely I believe that we can work things out peaceably and with sound logic, or things that make sense for both involved parties, or both parties and a third party mediator.
Tried all that already. Didn't work. Next?
I have a long list of manny things that bug me about living with a hand full of the things you all do, but I don't let them bother me so much that it consumes my happiness.
But it does bother you. When Zane asked you to turn off the TV you flipped out. That doesn't just happen for no reason.
In other words, some of the things that you guys do that bother me, I just leave them alone
lol
because i figure its a free country and we all pay rent here.
Seriously though, I see where you're going with all this. You're trying to tell us what you (pretend) to do so that we may see your example and follow your lead, then allude to the fact that if we don't (which we aren't) then we're bad people.
If i have made a mistake in the past, feel free to let me know what it is that I have done wrong so i can; A. repent and not do that any more, B. Change and not do that in the future, C. fix what was done so it doesn't effect your happiness. If I am currently doing something that makes you mad or un-happy I can change but only if you communicate and let me know what that is.
We'll communicate when we feel like our heads aren't going to get bitten off. Or we'll just be cordial with you and listen to your complaints so as not to create a confrontation even if we disagree with you. Meanwhile, we'll communicate with Dan.
This being said, I do not like bringing up the past over and over again unless it is constructive and can make a happier existence for you and i in the present or future.
But if we can't bring up the past, then we lose all the damning evidence and examples of everything I've laid out up to this point. (And there's even MORE that I didn't write!) There's that convenience again. Brilliant.
Also i don't like mixing previous experiences between room mates. If you have a problem with how i have treated a room mate in the past we can all meet and talk, but most of the things that i have done to wrong another room mate has been resolved with that room mate, so other room mates need not be involved in something that has; 1. happened in the past and 2. has been resolved with that room mate.
See above.
In the future i will try to do things that only make my fellow room mates happy, but i realize some are harder to please than others.
It only appears that way because some of us get backed up into corners and are forced into the situation (that shouldn't even be a situation in the first place) and others just play along for the sake of keeping the peace. If you are really going to make an effort to try, then you need to follow this communication to the tee and anything varying from it is implied intention that you just want to further your own selfish desires.
I promise i will try to make peace with in reason and logic. please, help me help you. I don't plan on moving any time soon so please let me know if there is anything i can do to make all of our existences here more of a peaceable one.
You don't plan on moving? I wonder why? Oh, I suppose it's because it's extremely hard to find a place like this that has everything you need (including utilities) at a price like this, with no contract, and no question about how you're going to pay your rent. You found the diamond in the rough with this place; and so did I. The difference between you and I is that I appreciate it and you expect it. Most places aren't going to offer the perks this place offers, even just a couple of them. You have it good here, yet you say it's "slavery". You say that you're in the middle of your career change and that you don't need this kind of stress. Honestly, you're going to find it more stressful living here than it would be to find some other poor soul to take you in somewhere else.

The point is, you're with a different bunch of people than you're used to wherever you came from, and you need to get over it. You pay your rent, and that includes your room and utilities. "Your" parking space doesn't exist; neither does mine. It's extra. The living room is extra. Use of cabinet space is extra. Fridges and washer/dryer? Yep, extra. I know I'm talking like it's my place, and it's not; but I've rented out to people before, I know how it works. And this is why Dan will never have a problem with me.